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Anger That Had Nowhere to Go

It has been more than seven days since I decided to reduce self-censorship and say what I mean when I feel it. I moved from releasing myself from the burden of “being afraid of hurting people with my words,” to emotional chaos, to a state of near paralysis. For several days, I did not feel like doing anything. Not meditating. Not reading. Not praying. Not listening to music. Not even scrolling mindlessly. It was not laziness. It was depletion. Then, slowly, my energy began to return. I am writing to summarize this period. *** Early in this period, I resigned from my second job (a casual job. I have a full-time job). That decision had been pending for weeks. I kept postponing it, waiting for a clearer signal, a more comfortable timing, a better emotional state. But clarity rarely arrives when it comes to quitting something. That day at work, during a quiet shift, I felt the familiar internal pressure to appear constantly productive. To keep moving even when there was no need to move. Th...
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I Did Not Notice I Was Falling Apart (and I hate to admit it)

Lately, I have been disappointed in myself. Not because of failure at work. Not because of visible collapse. From the outside, I appear functional. Productive. Composed. I complete my tasks. I maintain my routines. I perform well professionally. But internally, something has been unstable for a long time. I hesitated before writing this. Part of me questioned whether it should be public. Another part of me understood that silence has not been serving me well. I have been under constant stress for months. I told myself it was manageable. I believed I was coping because I was still “doing everything as usual.” Then I noticed something small. My smartwatch needed to be tightened by one extra hole. That was the first sign. In the past few months, I have lost more than five kilograms. Since around 2016, my weight has never dropped this significantly. I have already been considered underweight, so the additional loss did not alarm me immediately. If I did not wear a watch, I might not hav...

Notes on Naval Ravikant

I recently listened to another Chris Williamson's podcast. This time, it's with Naval Ravikant. I decided to write down the ideas that stood out to me. Naval speaks about life in a clear and practical way. He talks about making long-term decisions carefully, learning through iteration, handling stress and anxiety, and finding happiness without ego. His ideas combine philosophy and business thinking in a simple but powerful way. This post is a personal reference so I can return to these lessons and review them in the future. This is actually only half of the podcast content that I listened to, but it has already brought me so much clarity about life in general. Four-Year Decisions: The Compounding Effect of Commitment Naval often emphasizes that decisions requiring long-term commitment must be treated really seriously. A four-year decision is rarely just about four years because it compounds. For example, choosing a city to live in affects: The peer group you encounter Yo...

Ten Things That Stuck With Me After Watching an Interview with Morgan Housel

I recently watched an interview between Chris Williamson and Morgan Housel. I did not expect to take notes, but I did anyway. The conversation drifted from relationships to housing, to legacy. It felt like someone calmly pointing at how humans actually behave. These are the ten ideas that stayed with me after the video ended. I am writing them down so I can come back to them later. 1. People Remember You by How You Make Them Feel One of the earliest and most understated points in the interview is also one of the most powerful: people remember you by how you make them feel, not by how impressive you are. Psychological research consistently shows that people enjoy conversations where they talk more, not where the other person performs better. Studies on active listening demonstrate that remembering names, asking thoughtful follow-up questions, and showing genuine curiosity create stronger social bonds than wit or intelligence. Neuroscience adds another layer: talking about oneself activa...

Embracing Long-Form Conversations: My Thoughts on Daniel Priestley and Steven Bartlett’s Insights

Hello everyone! Happy 2025! I hope you’re doing well. Today, I want to share my personal reflections on an interesting conversation between Daniel Priestley and Steven Bartlett from The Diary of a CEO . They discussed why podcasts and long-form, unscripted content are becoming so popular. This topic is definitely outside of my usual day-to-day—after all, I don't own a company, nor do I work in broadcasting. I’m a cook, but I still find this discussion very insightful. You can access the full video here . *** Why Do People Want Longer Content? We live in a world full of quick social media updates, be it in the form of shorts, reels, or something else. Personally, I enjoy the convenience of bite-sized videos. I can't deny that it feels so satisfying and entertaining at the same time (more on this maybe next time). But I’ve also noticed that short clips often lack depth. Daniel suggests that, because there’s so much confusion and debate about “misinformation,” people want longer, ...

Terus dan terus.

Kemana hidup ini harus kubawa? Kekecewaan datang dan pergi. Begitu pula kecintaan. Yang mana yang harus kupercaya? Ada keputusan, ada ketakutan. Ada komitmen, ada kebingungan. Dimana ada harapan, disitu ada kekecewaan. Dimana ada tekad, disitu ada godaan. Dimana ada kekecewaan, disitu ada harapan. Akankah aku bertahan? Berapa lama harus aku bertahan? Berapa lama harus aku percaya? Tujuh kali tujuh ratus tujuh puluh tujuh? Sampai jelas. Sampai mati dan hidup lagi. Sampai nyata.

Day 30: My Childhood Ambition

Write about your childhood ambition. Image by Vecstock on Freepik Sejujurnya, aku tidak ingat mimpi apa yang kutulis di katalog kelulusan SD. Tapi ada satu mimpi yang pernah muncul di benakku saat SMA. Aku pernah ingin menjadi seorang pianis. Aku mulai belajar musik sejak SD, saat itu, aku memainkan organ. Aku mempelajari adanya konsep kunci-kunci dasar yang dapat kuhapalkan. Tapi dengan belajar dari kecil, bukan berarti aku menjadi seorang prodigy . Udah nggak pandai, masih malas pula kalo disuruh latihan. Kemudian beranjak SMA, aku mulai les piano dan memainkan beberapa lagu yang lebih sulit dari pada yang kumainkan saat SD. Aku juga melalui tes ABRSM ( Associated Board of the Royal Schools of Music ) grade 3 saat itu. Masih belum terlalu jauh, tapi melalui tes ABRSM memberiku sedikit trauma dengan musik. Aku lulus ujian dengan nilai merit , yaitu nilai dibawah distinction . Tapi untuk meraih nilai itu aku harus mengorbankan banyak hal. Banyak waktu yang terpakai karena aku over...